“When we use acceptance or rejection as a determining factor of our worth in human beings, that’s when we get screwed.”
(or, my personal favourite quote from this ep – “You’ve got to spend an awful lot of time with Patrick Swayze in a lake.” 😆)
Sas Petherick is a coach specialising in helping women overcome self doubt and find their self belief. She is someone who has taught me huge amounts, both personally and professionally, and before we’d even finished recording our episode together in Season 1 I knew I needed to bring her back for another this time around.
I called her up to talk about an issue that I suspect is close to lots of our hearts – that worry about what other people will think of us.
I was hoping to get Sas to cure me of this altogether, but her answers to the problem are not quite what you might expect…
Things we talk about in this episode:
- Why not all opinions are equal when it comes to determining our self worth
- What happens when we outsource our self worth to other people
- Why we’re programmed as humans to want love and belonging
- How social media is built to play on this and feeds into our sense of self worth or self doubt
- Why it hurts when we don’t get the response we expect online
- Why people’s negativity and criticism is usually not really about us and our work
- The ways we adapt ourselves to try to fit in with other people’s expectations
- Why we can never really know what other people are thinking
- The people whose opinions and judgements really should and do matter to us
- How tackling this stuff can help change the world
Links we mention in this episode:
- Sas’ episode with me in Season 1 of Hashtag Authentic
- Sas’ own new podcast, Courage & Spice
- Sas’ online programme, your Self Belief map
- Black Mirror episode 13 – Ranked
- #freeupmyinsta via Allison Sadler
- Sas’ blog post on the ‘moon people’
- My chat with Tara Mohr in Episode 23
- 15 Common distortions in thinking (a CBT principle)
- Russell Brand’s podcast with Frankie Boyle
Want to talk about this episode? I can’t wait to hear your thoughts below, or over on Twitter and Instagram, where you can use the tag #HashtagAuthenticPodcast. Come by and tell me and Sas about your struggles with other people’s judgement, and your own experiences of the topics we discussed.
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