How are you getting on with your New Years resolutions?

I ask because I am kicking ass with mine! Sorry, not very modest but then modesty is so 2013…

The biggest change for me has been around ‘selfishness’. I’m no Mother Theresa, but probably like a lot of women with low self esteem, I can find it difficult to put my own needs first.  As a mama, I’ve found this makes it hard to assert Orla’s needs, too.

Yet it seems like most people don’t have any trouble asking for what they need/want. Which works fine when everyone does the same, but when you get a fawning sap like me trying to please everyone else, it becomes very unbalanced.

So, I am being more selfish asserting my needs, and it’s difficult, but brilliant! I’m reading books again. Books! I’m writing, and chasing dreams, and drinking the last glass of wine sometimes, and saying ‘sorry, I can’t do that’ and then not doing it! Amazing!

Is it just me? Does anyone else struggle with this? Or are you good at helping yourself to what you need, knowing you help other people too? 

5 Comments

  • Lili

  • March 19, 2014

I’ve actually found since having my daughter I’m far more assertive and worry less about it. I had a spell of about 10 months where I noticed other mums found it v easy to dictate how the morning/afternoon/day should go to fit their needs and kids schedules and often it was to our detriment. They weren’t being rude, they just had no trouble spelling out their needs. Actually the clearer they were the less I minded and so I now try to be the same – its amazing how little people care when you think they will!

  • Sara

  • February 17, 2014

Yes! Great resolution. How did it work out?
& thank you! They were a Christmas gift from R 🙂

  • Xandra

  • February 16, 2014

what a lovely resolution! One year my resolution was to “Be Xandra”, which is sort of similar. Also, I like your scissors.

  • Sara

  • February 13, 2014

It is hard. I always think you are good at standing up for yourself! But if you’re a doormat, you’re a super pretty one. Like with flowers and stuff … maybe with a bird on it 😉 xxx

  • Sheona

  • February 13, 2014

No, I’m fucking shite at it and have no idea how to not be such a door mat x

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