happily addicted to the internet

I am in a cafe without wifi and I feel dangerously adrift I keep picking up my phone and putting it down again. My brain is firing off ideas – book that meeting! What was that thing on Twitter again? – and meeting the hard brick wall of non-connectivity. I am like Mulder in one of those old X Files episodes where he keeps reaching for his lost gun, sighing as his hand hits the…

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living with big emotions

living with big emotions

I have big feelings. By that I mean, my emotions frequently overpower me; I’m always at the superlative end of the emotional spectrum. Enraged, distraught, overjoyed, overwhelmed. This isn’t a particularly popular trait. Perhaps it’s a British thing – a lingering hangover from those cheery Victorian folk, all stiff upper lip and saucy table legs – but strong emotions are still seen as the hallmark of the weak, irrational & immature. While the latter might…

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what’s in a name? the pros and cons of a married name

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I’ve been deliberating about my married name. At first it seemed simple. Before he’d even proposed, both R and I loosely assumed I would take his name; I  liked the romance of it, felt my typical longing to belong. It seemed such a fait accomplis that we readily registered Orla with his Irish surname. Even the dog has his family name called out at the vets. Sometime after he’d proposed, my clarity faded. Perhaps it…

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Instagram tips – a guide to hashtagging

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Hashtags are entirely unmysterious – they categorize posts into certain topics, and link to related content. Aside from the occasional humorous punchline or sotto voce descriptor, that’s really all they do – and yet many of us expect them to unlock unlimited Instagram growth, stardom & wealth. That’s not how the force works. That said, once you’re creating truly brilliant, beautiful, visually engaging content, skilful hashtagging can be a great promotional tool. Below are my guidelines for…

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Sonny Sunshine {100 stories}

  {100 stories}:  A COLLECTION OF FICTIONAL FRAGMENTS & UNFINISHED RAMBLINGS   Sonny doesn’t talk. They tell me not to say that, but then they tell me all sorts of things – he’s waiting to surprise me, just turn off the TV, boys are slower to develop than girls. Give him time – I get that one a lot. It doesn’t make any difference: he just doesn’t talk. As a baby he never shut up.…

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show & tell: March

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What do you mean it’s April?! Somehow, despite acknowledging April fools day & escaping unscathed, it still didn’t register that this meant March was entirely over. Better hurry up and write this post! (Click the pictures above for full size) ONE. Every year our little village enters (and wins) a ‘village in bloom’ competition – usually despite our total lack of participation. This year we decided to make a bit of an effort, and Orla’s found…

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TFI Spring

Thank f*ck it’s spring. I mean really, winter. Don’t let the door hit you, etc etc. Is it just me? I don’t even feel like this winter was especially long, but it’s slowly started gnawing at my soul. I generally quite like the colder weather; I’m a big fan of the snow & log fires & scarves & boots. I like the necessity of blankets after dark. I could easily take another few months of…

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drawing the lines

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How do you decide what you share online -and what do you hold back? It’s something that regularly comes up often during mentoring conversations – our sessions invariably slipping a little into blogging too (& one of the reasons I’m changing things up). Where do you draw the line? Authenticity is still the hashtag du jour online, and for most of us it’s roughly the reason we started; to have a voice, to tell our side…

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In defence of sleepiness

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Sleep is one of those things we drastically undervalue in our society. I think about this a lot, as a perpetually sleepy person: how most people are more worried about dehyrdration or sugar addiction than they are their lack of rest. Mention you have a headache, and you’re immediately blanketed in well-intentioned advice. Someone will demand you drink a pint of water; another person will offer to rub your neck. Depending on the kind of…

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instagram tips: notes on notifications

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You may have already read my initial response to the news of the changes to Instagram that I wrote when the news was first announced. This post is a supplement to that. Today I’m seeing about 75% of my followings post an image asking people to turn on their notification alerts for their account. Some are really quite artistic, too! It’s spreading with the speed that only panic really can; frantic insta-fans stocking up on…

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